Grace That Builds the Home
A guide to walking in forgiveness, unity, and love
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Grace That Builds the Home by Elijah Sande of Abide In Christ The True Vine Ministries is not just another marriage book—it is a Spirit-led guide for restoring what many couples believe is beyond repair. Unlike worldly advice that relies on techniques and trends, this book takes you back to the eternal foundation of God’s Word and the transforming power of His grace.
At its heart, this book teaches that grace is not simply a doctrine to be studied, but a living force that rebuilds homes, heals wounds, and renews hearts. With biblical depth and pastoral warmth, Elijah Sande shows couples how forgiveness can break cycles of bitterness, how humility can replace pride, and how unity can triumph over division.
The book addresses real-life challenges—financial strain, infertility, loneliness, betrayal, interference from relatives or ex-partners, and the pressures of modern culture. Each chapter draws on Scripture, practical wisdom, and personal testimony to equip couples with tools for lasting covenant faithfulness.
Readers will discover:
How grace empowers husbands to lead with love and wives to respond with respect.
How conflict, instead of tearing down, can become a doorway to deeper trust and intimacy.
How parenting, aging, and seasons of struggle can strengthen rather than weaken a marriage.
How to guard your home from cultural distortions and build on the unshakable foundation of Christ.
Whether you are preparing for marriage, longing for restoration, or simply seeking to deepen your relationship, Grace That Builds the Home will help you rebuild where walls have crumbled and thrive where grace reigns. It is a book for newlyweds, couples in crisis, parents under pressure, and believers who want to leave a spiritual legacy for generations to come.
More than words on a page, this book is a call to embrace grace as a lifestyle—one that transforms not just your marriage, but your family, your church, and your witness to the world.
Table Of Contents
Chapter 1 – Who to Marry: Biblical Guidance for Choosing a Spouse
I. God’s Vision for Marriage vs. the World’s Standards
II. Beyond Beauty and Muscles: Character That Lasts
III. Faith, Fear of God, and Compatibility
IV. Seeking God’s Will in the Choice
Chapter 2 – Marriage as a Covenant, Not a Contract
I. God’s Covenant Design from Creation
II. The Difference Between Covenant and Contract
III. Covenant Faithfulness Through Trials
IV. Living Out Covenant Grace Daily
Chapter 3 – Christ and the Church: The Model for Marriage
I. The Mystery of Ephesians 5
II. Christ’s Love as the Husband’s Pattern
III. The Church’s Response as the Wife’s Example
IV. Reflecting Christ to the World Through Marriage
Chapter 4 – Building on the Rock: God’s Word in Marriage
I. Marriage Rooted in Scripture
II. Obedience as Protection from Storms
III. God’s Word as Guide in Decisions
IV. A Home Saturated with Scripture
Chapter 5 – Marriage Under Attack: The Enemy’s Oldest Strategy
I. From Eden to Today: Satan’s First Target
II. Lies and Corruptions in Today’s World
III. Why Even Newlyweds Are Not Spared
IV. Guarding Marriage with Prayer and Word
Chapter 6 – Walking in Daily Forgiveness
I. Why Forgiveness Is Central in Marriage
II. Removing Roots of Bitterness
III. Choosing Grace Over Revenge
IV. Forgiveness as a Path to Healing
Chapter 7 – Unity in Diversity of Personality and Gifting
I. Appreciating Differences Instead of Fighting Them
II. Complementing Strengths and Weaknesses
III. Celebrating God’s Design in Each Other
IV. Unity Through Shared Purpose
Chapter 8 – Resolving Conflict with Grace
I. Identifying the Sources of Conflict
II. Responding Instead of Reacting
III. Tools for Biblical Reconciliation
IV. Turning Conflict into Deeper Bonding
Chapter 9 – The Power of Reconciliation
I. God’s Model of Reconciling Us in Christ
II. Humility as the Door to Reconciliation
III. Restoring Trust After Failure
IV. Living as Agents of Reconciliation
Chapter 10 – Husbands: Loving Leadership by Grace
I. Servant Leadership Modeled on Christ
II. Providing and Protecting
III. Leading Spiritually at Home
IV. Growing in Humility and Sacrifice
Chapter 11 – Wives: Strength in Submission and Partnership
I. Submission as Strength, Not Weakness
II. Partnership and Co-Heirship in Christ
III. Honoring the Husband’s Role
IV. Using Influence Wisely
Chapter 12 – Shared Stewardship: Finances, Home, and Decisions
I. Biblical Stewardship in Marriage
II. Managing Finances Together
III. Decision-Making as One
IV. Trusting God’s Provision
Chapter 13 – Serving One Another in Love
I. The Example of Christ Washing Feet
II. Acts of Service That Build Love
III. Sacrificial Love in Daily Life
IV. Joy in Putting the Other First
Chapter 14 – When Children Come: Grace for Parenting Together
I. Adjusting to Parenthood as a Team
II. Maintaining Intimacy After Children
III. Shared Responsibility in Parenting
IV. Raising Children Without Losing Each Other
Chapter 15 – Empty Nest and Aging Gracefully Together
Chapter 16 – Serving God Without Neglecting Each Other
Chapter 17 – Sustaining Romance in Every Season
Chapter 18 – When Jobs Are Lost: Trusting God in Provision
I. Faith in Seasons of Unemployment
II. Supporting Each Other Practically
III. Guarding Against Fear and Blame
IV. God’s Provision Through Faith
Chapter 19 – Facing Sickness with Faith and Unity
Chapter 20 – Poverty and Financial Pressure in Marriage
Chapter 21 – Standing Together in Life’s Unexpected Storms
Chapter 22 – Grace in Seasons of Barrenness
I. The Silent Pain Behind Closed Wombs
II. Grace That Holds When Hopes Delay
III. When Grace Redefines Fruitfulness
IV. Grace in Waiting Becomes a Testimony
Chapter 23 – Grace in Singleness: Wholeness Without a Wedding Ring
I. Singleness Is Not a Sentence but a Calling
II. Finding Fulfillment in Fellowship With Christ
III. Guarding Purity and Purpose in a Distracted World
IV. Living Fruitfully in the Grace of Contentment
Chapter 24 – Adultery and Betrayal: The Wound and the Healing
I. Understanding the Gravity of Betrayal
II. Biblical Steps Toward Forgiveness
III. Rebuilding Broken Trust
IV. God’s Power to Restore
Chapter 25 – Guarding Against Emotional Affairs
Chapter 26 – When an Ex Interferes: Drawing Boundaries in Grace
I. Honoring the Past Without Letting It Rule the Present
II. Establishing Godly Boundaries
III. Unity in Handling Interference
IV. Protecting the Marriage Covenant
Chapter 27 – In-Law and Family Interference
Chapter 28 – Modern Threats to Marriage in Society
I. Redefinition of Marriage vs. God’s Standard
II. The Media’s False Image of Love
III. Technology, Pornography, and Social Media Affairs
IV. Standing as Light in a Dark Culture
Chapter 29 – Speaking the Truth in Love
Chapter 30 – Listening with Grace and Patience
Chapter 31 – Physical Intimacy as God Designed It
Chapter 32 – Emotional and Spiritual Intimacy
Chapter 33 – Addiction, Anger, and Hidden Strongholds
Chapter 34 – Depression, Anxiety, and Emotional Health
Chapter 35 – Different Faith Levels Between Spouses
Chapter 36 – Rebuilding Trust After Brokenness
Chapter 37 – Parenting with Unity and Grace
Chapter 38 – Teaching Children the Way of the Lord
Chapter 39 – Creating a Spiritual Atmosphere at Home
Chapter 40 – Hospitality and Witness as a Family
Chapter 41 – Persevering to the End Together
Chapter 42 – Leaving a Godly Legacy for Children and Generations
Chapter 43 – Marriage as a Witness to the World
Chapter 44 – The Eternal Marriage: Christ and His Bride
Chapter 45 – Marriage in a Broken World: Standing as God’s Witness Today
Chapter 46 – Divorce and God’s Heart
Chapter 47 – Remarriage After Divorce
Chapter 48 – Grieving the Death of a Spouse
Chapter 49 – Remarriage After Death of a Spouse
Chapter 50 – Singleness After Marriage
Chapter 51 – Stories of Redemption
Every home begins with hope. When two people stand before God, their hearts are full of dreams—dreams of love, peace, joy, and purpose. Yet along life’s journey, the storms come. Words once spoken in tenderness are replaced by silence or frustration. Promises made in love are tested by time and trial.
The world has changed the meaning of marriage, but God’s Word remains unchanged. His design still stands, and His grace still builds what human hands cannot repair.
Grace That Builds the Home is written for those preparing for marriage, couples battling misunderstanding, parents guiding children, and believers healing from emotional wounds or betrayal. It brings biblical truth to real issues—finances, infertility, loneliness, aging, and even interference from relatives or exes—reminding every reader that no home is beyond God’s power to restore.
With grace as its heartbeat and Scripture as its foundation, this book equips readers to walk through every test with faith and forgiveness. It challenges pride, nurtures humility, and rekindles love through the transforming power of Christ.
Covering every dimension—spiritual, emotional, and practical—it shows that grace is not a topic but a lifestyle that rebuilds homes and hearts.
Grace That Builds the Home is a guide for all who believe that when Christ is the builder, no marriage is beyond redemption and no home beyond hope.
Author: Elijah Sande
Publisher: Abide In Christ The True Vine Ministries – Edmonton, Alberta, Canada
Language: English (KJV-based Scripture references)
Length: 604 pages
Genre: Christian Living / Marriage & Family / Spiritual Growth
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Format Availability: eBook (PDF/ePub/Kindle),
Publication Date:10/2025
Dimensions: 6 x 9 inches
Theme Colors: Navy Blue & Gold
Target Audience: Christian couples, pastors, family ministries, and believers seeking biblical restoration
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